My life, My experiences, self development and personal growth

I have been using this site quite extensively to improve my own performance and that of my team and colleagues from different teams. On this site, I will share some of my personal experiences along with those of my colleagues in addition to some very good articles from the Mindtools website.

Saturday, December 01, 2007

Indian Innovation - Charge your cell phone with the leaves of the Banyan tree

Believe It or Not ! Its very Strange But True Very True. Now, you do not require any mobile charger to charge your mobiles.
Only there is need to use green leaf of peepal tree and after some time your mobile will get charged. No soon the people came to learn this development; they tested it and found encouraging results. If your mobile has been discharged and you are inside a jungle then you need not to use any charger. You should pluck two peepal leaves and your work would be done. It is very good idea and easy to charge your mobile. You would have to open your mobile battery and connect it with peepal leaf. After that without shaking mobile set you should set the battery in your mobile set. After some time your mobile would be charged. Though it is unbelievable but as soon as the residents of Chitrakoot came to know about the discovery they could not believe the news. But when they saw it practically then the incident proved true. Now hundreds of mobile holders are using this technique and charging their mobiles. Whereas according to the botanists, it is just changing mutual energy into electrical energy power can be saved in battery. They said that it is the subject of research.
Step by Step guide to charge your mobile battery using peepal leaves
1- Open your mobile cover
2- Take out your battery
3- Take two to three fresh leaves of peepal/pipal/ ashwattha tree
4- Touch the stub of these leaves on your mobile battery terminal for a minute
5- Clean the mobile battery terminal with the soft cloth
6- Put your battery again in your mobile and switch it on
7- Now you can see the result
8- If required repeat the process with fresh leaves
PS: The writer does not take any responsibility of the outcome of the above steps if the reader chooses to carry them out.

Thursday, November 29, 2007

How do you recover your motivation after a failure?

There is no such thing as failure
I like this quote by Anthony Robbins a lot. In full, it goes like this:"There is no such thing as failure. There are only results."
Even more so with personal development: you can't, and you won't fail, if you have the right attitude.
It’s really amazing to understand how even the thought of failure at even the simplest tasks can prevent most of the populace from even attempting those tasks. In the grander scheme of things, the fear of failure is a big hurdle for most people to overcome. No one can avoid the truth of the failure. The history has witnessed that all those who have attempted to flee from it, their entire lives almost certainly have missed great opportunities and even greater rewards.
Bouncing back quickly from the failure will decide how far you will go and how successful you are in your life and/or profession. The individual’s ability to recover quickly from the failure almost always differentiates those who recover and manage and those who recover and succeed. The pain and disappointment of coming up short may send you into an emotional whirlpool filled with questions, doubts, and promises to yourself to never try again, but those normal reactions to failure usually subside. And when they do, your reaction to that failure will determine if you succeed.
There are 2 major ways in which things may fail.
One is by way of making a mistake and taking a wrong decision. This is predominant in Sports. The coach or the captain of a team takes a wrong decision and that costs the team that game. This is also seen in the day-to-day businesses wherein the CEO of a company decides to introduce a new product in the market based on the belief that the product will bring in dramatic growth to the company but instead the product may not generate the anticipated growth to the company and the company has to cut losses. This type of failure revolves around what went wrong. It may be hard for some people to accept but for the others take the responsibility so that they can improve for the next time.
The second type of failure is when you have done everything RIGHT from your side, put in all the best efforts and energies into the pursuit of being successful and even have considered the things that may go wrong and have back-up plans in place, but in the end, you fail. These kinds of failures are difficult to handle due to the feelings of helplessness assosciated with them. However, some persons take this as a hint that they were very close to being successful and view this as a matter of time rather than matter of their ability to accomplish the said task. Although these letdowns are difficult to handle, everyone faces these one or the other time in their lives and everyone handles these situations differently.
What's the way out or how do you bounce back:
There are a couple of things to be considered here.
One of them is to change the failure to a setback. This mainly requires you to change your perception of the failure. First off, you need to change the word "failure" to "setback". You also need to look at your shortcomings objectively and look at the ways to overcome those. Just the change of perception from "an event knocking you down" to "a setback that knowked you back" would definitely help you recover and you will be able to acknowledge that there would be bumps along the road and they are very much manageable.
The other one is to avoid generalizing the situations when we get frustrated. Saying "Why me...", "this always happens..." or "I never..." are very difficult to the recovery process, because what you are really doing is setting yourself up for another loss. Understanding that the setback was a one-off event would help in faster recovery.
Next step would be to assess the damage caused by the setback. You would have to look at what is the degree of setback and what you've lost in the process. The best approach is to look at what has been lost and what is remaining. This is important because due to generalization of the situation, the actual damage could be lesser than it really is.
The next step is to start picking up from where you've got a setback. Collecting yourself can prove difficult if you've not really set yourself up for moving forward. The resetting does not necessarily mean taking a step back but it could be a mere re-adjusting yourself, so that you are in a better position to succeed.

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Monday, November 26, 2007

5 reasons not to read this post...

1. You are an intelligent person and no intelligent person ever falls for a headline that starts with “5 Reasons…” However, if you clicked your way here by accident or you’re just a little absent minded today and have started reading this, you can stop reading here before you get to reason number two. No harm done.

2. “5 Reasons” doesn’t really cut it anyway. If five were a good number for a set of things then there would only be five commandments, five days in the week and five men in a football team. To be honest “five” sucks. You can argue for it on the basis of fingers on the hand, but hey, I only see four. That stubby thing is a thumb not a finger.

3. If you’ve got as far as this, then you probably got drunk last night and you aren’t exactly absorbing the words. You’re consciousness is somewhere else completely. So accusing you of reading these words is technically inaccurate and probably slanderous. If you aren’t in such a damaged state then there’s almost no way to excuse you. Take it from me, this blog posting has no content whatsoever. It doesn’t prove anything and it has no artistic merit. It is not important, or relevant or meaningful. So for “chris-sake” stop reading it.

4. You might still be reading this if you “skim”. Know what I mean? You read the first few words of each block of text and then skip onto the next block. I do that sometimes. Anyway, if that’s the case then you won’t have got as far into this block of text as this sentence, so I’m not addressing you anyway. But if anyone out there is still reading this, then I hate to tell you, but “reason” number four isn’t even a reason. That’s right. This blog posting is completely bogus and fundamentally dishonest, because it claims to deliver 5 reasons for something and it doesn’t.

5. I know. There are people who are out there who will have read all the way through to here just because the headline told them not to. You poor contrary souls. There really is nothing here to read. No content. What can I say? I can’t help you. Some of you are probably pedants. If so, you may be irate with me because you’ve thought about reason 4—and this has caused you to read on with gritted teeth. Reason 4 claims not to be a reason, but actually it is a reason. If one of my happy family of five reasons is bogus and fundamentally dishonest—then it is not—because it surely is a reason to ignore this posting completely, even if it claims not to be. Well done pedants! By the way, this reason, reason number five, makes no such claim and yet is a justification for nothing.

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Sunday, November 25, 2007

Do you set goals?

A lot of my colleagues and subordinates have walked up to me and asked me what is goal setting, how to go about it, what are the advantages of doing so and how do we consistently do it. I personally believe that your success depends a lot on this crucial exercise as it helps turn your dreams and visions in reality through flawless execution.

Yet, according to a study by ThinkIQ.com, less than 15% of the population actually takes the time to write down their goals. If you are part of that less than 15%, which goals do you write down, e.g. which timelines, for which areas of your life?

The secret lies in setting yourself up for SUCCESS and not for failure (as it happens in ~95% of the cases, since the people are not committed enough to achieving the goals that they set for themselves).

Here are the SIX Keys to a successful Goal-setting -

1. Only set those goals that you are committed to achieve.
2. Set yourself up for success. So if you really want to lose 30 pounds, give yourself a year to do so rather than giving yourself time to do it in 3-4 months.
3. What also matters is that you set some interim milestones that you should achieve. Drawing a parallel from the above example, every 5 pounds loss could be an important milestone. Don't you think that this is more achievable and every time you hit it, it will make you more confident of achieving the final goal.
4. Model your success on others who have already achieved in their lives/careers etc. You can draw inspiration from them and follow their strategies to achieve what you have set out to achieve.
5. Get support from others. Take help from a friend who is equally committed and equally enthusiastic to the weight-loss cause. Talk to each other. Hold each other accoutable. This way, the more number of people you have on your team, the better are your chances of successfully achieving the goal set.
6. Chalk out an action plan... and make sure that you act on it. This can be done by taking help from a friend, colleague, spouse etc. Break-up your goal in smaller actions. Add some details to these actions. Set up the time lines by which you will complete each of these actions. depending on the priorities of each of the actions. The more actions you take, the more forward momentum you will develop towards the achievement of your goals.



I am enclosing a sample Goal setting format for your reference. Over last 2 years or so I have used to achieve various goals that I have set for myself - howmuchever trivial these goals seem to be.

The goal-setting example given is a simple and a very generic example. I want to spend at least 30 minutes with my wife on weekdays and more qualitative time (2-3 hours) on the weekends. I also want to take an annual vacation with my family once a year.

See the goal setting I have done for myself to arrive at these goals. Please do keep in mind that for some of the goals/actions, there won't be any dead line as these will be ongoing actions (like spending 30 mins with wife everyday). So do use your common sense to decide on thhe deadlines of the detailed actions.

Please feel free to use it for your benefit and pass it on to whoever needs it around you.

Among the secrets of making a goal compelling are to:
1. Make it personal and linked to what you value most.
2. Make it positive – what will you do rather than stop doing…?
3. Write in the present tense as if you have already achieved it.
4. Use your senses, how will things look, feel and sound when you have achieved your goal?

Happy Goal-setting and here's to "SUCCESS"!!!!

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